Beginning of the End

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Tim,

This was over the top. You are definitely not that awful of a person....you have to remember she has to justify all of her actions. Anything that she can do to prove that she made the "right" decision. Her comment about "time and time again" is her trying to say that this always happens...Thornton is right. It is her perception and you can't change it. It was a really awful situation and I think you tried your best to validate (I can't do it yet either), offer solutions and stopped communication when you should. What else could you do? I hope some veterans will weigh in on how to validate in this type of "pressure cooker" - it was learning under fire and I commend you for not letting your emotions get the best of you and not fighting back.

I do LOVE Thornton's idea about the weekly email. Maybe that can be your olive branch to her? I am going to suggest that to my H. It will definitely cut down on miscommunications and ways to interact that aren't healthy (as above).