seems like you have a very good mindset. I agree she wants you around for all of the family stuff, but she wants to be her own person and walk whenever she wants.

sorry thats not real life.

as far as the kid talk, i think you should get a few ideas written down. this will get emotional for you. I know it was awful for me. W was a stone face. She left me to say everything and i was so angry that i had to do the explaining and then all she did is show pictures of her new house and how they get new bedroom stuff.
My anger was at an all time high that night, then she left to make matters worse. It was fine though gave me time with the kids. they asked me some things and figured out why it was happening on their own.

Just dont be the one pointing the finger at her. I do remembering laughing when i asked W how she wanted to tell them. Without thinking she said we need to be truthful with them. I looked at her and said are you sure you want that. She kind of looked away and then didnt say anything. I think she realized at that point no matter what excuse she gave me on why she wanted to leave it was her leaving and her choice.

I did not want to damage the relationship the kids have with their mother. She does good enough of that on her own!

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15