The talk with the kids. Have her tell them why. W and I do not agree on why we are separating. Unless you are talking about W wanting the separation and I don't. There is no way she will say that. It is the truth though.
I am not going to bring it up. I will wait till wife says ok its time to talk to the kids. Then I will say that we need to go over what we are going to say to them.
She is worried that I am going to tell them is doom and gloom. I talk to these kids all the time, I put them to bed and have min conversations with them. They need to know the truth. yes they will have two places to live and two room to decorate, but they are not going to have a Mom and Dad that live together anymore.
I can believe W is still having the idea that we will be at each others houses and spending all thins time together as much as possible?? Still after all the time in house S she is telling me this. After her wanting real separation and time apart.
I can see the future and its going to be me not contacting her and giving this distance that she asked for. She is going to try to get me to do stuff for her like she tried to get me to go look at the house she is interested in with her. This is straight out of the WW play book. Wants me there for all the hard stuff but not he fun stuff.
She is going to feel loss, I am going to be busy, unavailable, gone. This will be so much easier to do that once in separate houses.
Right now I am acting as if. Trying to be pleasant, but I am angry. I haven't accepted it 100% yet. Still think she may change her mind but she has gone to far to go back now. There is to much money at the table for her to go back now. Through her manipulation she has squeezed more money from her parents. Even if she wanted to go back she wont, She doesn't want to loose the money. I am just mind reading but I would like to think I do know her to some degree. Or I do have a gut feeling about it.
So I am moving ahead with it. Lets go separate houses. I am trying to act like I am on board right now.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
