Beginning of the End

[TimR]

Ouch. The following is my text exchange, please weigh in? I am condensing some of it:

Me: Going to pick up S at 1115 to head to clinic and weigh ins

W: I don't believe you ever mentioned the clinic

Me: I did when I said about DT not being at practice to sign his shoes.

W: OMG I just looked on line, weigh ins are not till 5

Me: They were last year but they started even before 4

W: So I am hardly going to see my son on his birthday. "way to nix me out of my own son's birthday."

Me: Looking at the time line I see how that is a problem, "I will talk to him about driving up to catch the very end of the clinic and then weigh in."

W: "it must be your goal to upset me. Your thoughtlessness and utter disregard for others never ceases to amaze me. It's just time and time again."

w: "Ohhh.. go figure you must not know how to respond. Same reason you can't verbally discuss things, you don't know how to communicate." (at the same time I was responding)

Me: "Your feelings that I do everything for myself and have no regard for other's are appreciated. In order to change this I see one of only three solutions, we can 1 pull him from the tournament (but that will ruin his birthday) 2 you can take him to weigh ins or 3 you just text me when you are ready for him to go. It's up to you"

W: "My feelings are appreciated? What a fake response. Does your counselor give you a list of responses to give me? You must have a script of possible things to say bc you are incapable of genuine responses."

Me: "I am sorry. If you would like to talk about the tournament and weigh ins that is fine. Disrespectful and attacking texts I am going to ignore from now on."

W: "You are hilarious, you're going to ignore me disrespecting and attacking you? What do you do to me? Oh... that's right Tim is always the victim... how could I possibly forget that?"

w: "I guess I will choose to ignore texts from you as well."

w: "I have tried my best to keep things amicable with you for S's sake. but that clearly is not going to happen bc time and time again you repeat your actions of only thinking of yourself. You are making me get to the point where I can't even stand the thought of being around you or speaking to you at all."

W: "I can only take so much of this. You just keep pushing and pushing, you wont stop. I am seeing a side of you that I didn't even know existed. You are being down right mean and spiteful to me and trying to make me upset and that's an awful way to be."

W: "Why are you doing this Tim? Seriously... what is your goal here?"

Besides my poor validation, am I missing something? She knew about the tournament months ago and knew about the clinic weeks ago... I am that awful of a person?? There has to be some truth in what she is saying or feeling?