your story made me well up. I did exactly the same this Christmas just gone. While I was unwrapping stockings with my boys Ex was texting her OM. I knew, she knew I knew but I just sat there and said, nothing is gonna ruin my last Christmas with my boys as a family. It's fast approaching me eldest's B'day and it is going to be hard but I am remembering your story now. Not trying to hijack, but my point being it is a choice to be the very best versions of ourselves as we can. I don't think it is ever linear for anyone and it will be up and down over and over.
me45,W43 S9,S5 T15yrs M10yrs BD 4/07/15 W wants D 4/07/15 W filed 8/05/15 D petition arrived 21/12/15 Merry xmas, W,S5 S9 moved out 5/2/16