Still NC - Who is Thornton?

[broke]

I'm trying not to allow myself feel like a victim. After all, I chose to be in a R with a recovering alcoholic. But part of me does feel victimized, I feel like I went above and beyond for our relationship (I'm codependent after all) and she took advantage of that and hung me out to dry.

I feel exactly the same way, Thornton. I put everything I had into my marriage and family. Maybe it wasn't what our WAS wanted, but at least give us a chance to work on the issues before you leave.

About having a bad day today - remember to not be too hard on yourself, Thornton. It is still so fresh. I am more than 7 months since the bomb dropped and I still have very bad moments and very bad days. Yesterday, I was driving home after having a great time at golf and I burst into tears. It was one of those "surreal" moments that can sneak up on you. But, I was able to bounce back a little quicker, too. So, I look at that as a positive sign for both of us. I think we just have to stick to our GAL and 180 goals and keep moving forward. My hope is with doing that work on ourselves and with the passage of time that those bad times will be become fewer and far between.

I am glad you have dinner with D16 to look forward to tonight!