Need help. Threading water, must learn to swim.

[TimR]

G8r, I agree with Thornton. If she brought it up once you know it will come up again. If you do some self reflection you will probably know what she will say. Be ready to be detached, that anything she does say will not create a reaction from you (i.e. tears or defensiveness) and think of how you will respond. However, do not initiate the R talk yourself, let her bring it to you. It sounds as though she is still playing the blame game. Yes some of her statements may be true, but what did she do to communicate this was bothering her prior to separating. Maybe you let her handle the finances but if it bothered her she should have spoken up in a way to get your attention.