I'm Jelly, I have been lurking and reading your sitch. The first months is always a chitty time! It all feels out of control. LIfe stinks and then one day you wake up and you realise it stinks a little less than it did yesterday. You can break the chittiness down into a series of three months intervals as far as responding to all of this.
Maybe I can do a shout out to Zues who wrote an amazing post on the emotional journey of the DB poster.
Just know Red, that like with all things in life this chittness passes and stench it causes fades.
You have one of the tougher sitches, due to H's extra bag of chit. Just remember that most of what is stinking around at yours is H stuff and NOT YOU!
Hang in their beautiful thing.
PS: Congrats on the almost 100lb weight loss. That is no mean feat and takes some gumption and guts to get there. So we all know you're brave, focussed and determined. Those qualities are now needed in this sitch. You get through this bit of your DB journey the same way you lost the weight. One day at time, one pound at time.
