Beginning of the End

[TimR]

JujuB (btw I love that name! obviously I was not so creative) and 1313 thanks for weighing in. I read Sandi's post about tough love and I am not sure what to do.

Juju, I get what you are saying and it makes perfect sense to me. I do it in an attacking way and even when trailer park boy takes off she will remember me acting coldly. At the same time, isn't that acting with expectations? This is the last financial thing we have together. I always paid all the bills except two and they were in my name anyway. I guess what also burns me is after I moved back in and she to her new place, I came home to find out the two bills she was to pay had not been paid in months. I guess last night just adds fuel to the fire.

I also see what you are saying 1313 and you are right as well. I do not owe it to her and giving her a heads up is really civil of me. I think maybe the best thing is to give a months notice. The insurance can always send me a refund.

Anyone else please feel free to weigh in. I am still struggling to find the balance of tough love and spite. Anyone wanna try and explain it yet again. I have read Sandi's post about it but every thing gets cloudy when applying it to your own sitch.