Thanks for weighing in, broke. It's hard b/c his family is literally like my family. They reach out to me and they keep telling me I can call anytime to vent and they haven't ex-communicated me and that they are praying for us, etc. They even offered to help me with my doctor bills to help me keep my sanity but of course, I politely declined b/c that would be just crazy.
But I will be all business and like posters on your board are saying, treat him like the friendly neighbor, light, cool, calm and collected. Writing that made me laugh b/c I used to be that gal when we first met and that's something he loved about me. He would always say, "It's just so easy with you." And I agree broke in that I don't think one mistake will make/break but I do know consistency is everything for myself and for the M.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."