When I first met husband I was actually the pursuer (sexually) I was very flirtatious. We had a great sex life.
For the first couple of years I was actually undergoing a pretty demanding program in school, so I had limited time to spend with husband. I was always studying. I later joked, that if I was not in school, we would have never lasted as a couple because I would have wanted more of his time.
He asked me to move in with him..I was stalling, and I never pressured him to marry me. In fact I was ok with not being traditional in order to avoid the stress and high costs of a wedding ( he now say I pushed him). He was more of the pursuer at this time and would do anything for me. Now he says that this is the time that he compromised everything to make me happy.
there is a lot different but I have to reflect on it.
I think financial stresses, children, health issues all kind of contributed to gradual dissatisfaction, criticism, disconnection, and poor communication.
I had started demanding more in the relationship and when we were together earlier, I was satisfied with the status quo so never did. That might be the major difference.
