As long as you don't rock his boat and let him dictate to you how things are going to go w/a divorce...of course, it will be different than his parents' divorce and you all could be one happy group of friends because he's getting what he wants. Now, I think you are a very smart lady and she be on her toes about what a divorce entails and what you are entitled to as a spouse and also what your children would be entitled to as well. Don't accept nothing less that what your lawyer and the court system says you are entitled to. Trust me, when he discovers what needs to be done for a divorce and a "fair" settlement, he may very well become nasty.
Learn all you can about what you are entitled to and keep it very close to the vest. He'll promise you the moon if he thinks he can get away w/stuff and once the ink is dry on the paper work, you'll not see much of anything. Make sure everything is written document, signed and sealed by the court.
Will he be happier? He may think so right now...but the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence...except where the septic tank is. Don't worry about his happiness...worry about you and your children's happiness for now. God has a way of taking care of fools, drunks and addicts.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
