Your last few posts caught my attention because husband and I are undergoing exact same argument.... My husband keeps reminding me he is paying my car insurance, and will not continue to pay when Policy ends in a few months. I have not responded to him yet, but I can tell you that when he does decide to do this, I will feel compelled to retaliate.
I do understand our backgrounds are very different though. Quick background: He left me and kids (with my parents) and it took me 4 months to take him to court for child support because I feared it would ruin our chances for reconciliation (I asked 2x and he would not. My asking turned into huge fights) He earns 3 x my salary. He is absolutely furious that he has to pay child support. He left me and I was never unfaithful. I have not yet asked him for anything else.
On one hand I certainly feel you are entitled. In fact my blood boils when I compare responsible and continually supportive men like you to my own husband (who I always believed was a good guy) who did not feel like he should pay child support because my retired parents were helping us.
On the other hand, she will most definatly view this as an attack and will try to reciprocate if you just take her off without notice. Is this the only thing left that you are paying for? Perhaps you can bring this up in a conversation that entails how you will proceed with all future financial aspects? Or perhaps you can remind her that you want to continue doing.... for the kids, but cannot continue keeping her on your policy.
I would handle this in a gentlemanly manner as opposed to doing anything out of spite. . I am sure she will remember it when the 38 year old man child reveals his true nature.
