I guess I still consider her a WW because of some of the things she said regarding this OM but after her telling me that he also likes men, does she really see a future there...
It isn't about what the OM (gay or straight), it is about your Wife. There is another poster here who has a WW, and he kept telling himself everything was okay b/c the OM was gay. Maybe, but the WW was in an EA, nevertheless. Do you understand what I'm saying here? Her OM may never consider having sex with her, but it's not about the OM, it's about how she thinks, feels, and acts. That's what makes her wayward. And, btw, if she stops contacting the OM one day, and she's talking about leaving the next day? She's still wayward. I never left my home, yet I was a wayward wife.
Her status doesn't change from waywardness, until her heart changes.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
