Anyway, my point is that you need to really make up your mind that you may be in harms way keeping things the way they are.
Or you think that your H won't go to far besides being a jerk to you right now.
Make that assessment that only you can do and then you may know which direction you need to go.
Just for you to laugh... the day my XH came to my house to prepare the D papers, he brought me a large and beautiful spring flower bouquet... go figure!
I care for you but I would like to hear what is it exactly that is going on... is he a monster or a jerk?
Tell us the way you see it and you may get more help in that direction.
