Now, the real work begins..Part II

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Tyler,

I am sorry that you are going through something similar to me. But, I am thankful for the perspective and feedback. Agree with all you wrote, especially part about giving the kids false hope. I brought that up with my H and he just brushes it off. Says the kids know that we are still getting D because he has told them. He doesn't get it because he is in affair fog. Doesn't really have any empathy for the rest of us right now.

Hope,

I think in my H's case he is either 1) waiting to see if the OW comes back to him or 2) following through with D because he has to keep his credibility and prove M was already bad (so it had nothing to do with his A)

Interesting question: How do you set boundaries with someone that doesn't care?

I think the goal is to set those boundaries as part of your db'ing. To take you further in your goals to improve yourself and stand for your marriage (at the same time you are detaching and moving away from hope). That is my take on it.