I'm sure she sensed it. After the discussion about her soon moving out for separation, we aired some of our grievances. One that I had no idea about was getting our S13 up for school. Making his breakfast and lunch. WAW said she has felt like a single mother. I was raised with a SAHM who did all that while my Dad worked and supported family. So my upbringing clouds my perception of that duty. But my WAW works so I wished she had asked. There were times when I would try to do it but I would get frustrated because she would tend to micromanage my every move. "I normally dont give him those" or "he likes these things better.
How times have changed! My H and I both worked, and he never got breakfast for the kids, unless I was sick. What is wrong with these women? (I know what's wrong....but no use in getting on my bandwagon about it). Listen, if she didn't open her mouth and say anything about it in time to do something....don't beat yourself up. And telling you how she doesn't normally give him that......is her controlling. She wants it both ways, you doing the work but by her rules.
How we are raised definitely has a bearing, just like it has on how I view a lot of the younger wives/mothers attitudes today. It makes me angry, although I realize they grew up in the aftermath of women's lib indoctrination. (Okay, so I had to get on my bandwagon for a minute).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
