Need help. Threading water, must learn to swim.

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Oh!!!! I forgot all about the revisionist history. Initially I would show my WW texts and pictures that provide clear and convincing evidence to refute my WW's revisionist history. That only caused her to dig in further and to look harder for anything supporting her position. Horrible idea on my part in hindsight because my need to be right only made stuff between us worse. Eventually are started reminding myself that I rather be married than right. It helped but I allowed a lot of damage to occur that I could have prevented if I had STFU. The revisionist history still bothers me but I don't let her see it bother me to the best of my abilities.

Sparks, you can practice without the H around. Like TimR mentioned, Thornton is very good at it. I also practice it with my D3. One day she will be a teenage girl and I know I will have big problems if I ignore her feelings. Doesn't mean that I give in and let her stay up late or have fries for dinner, but I acknowledge that is what she wants and feels she needs. Lol. It just occurred to me that dealing with my WW can be seen as great practice for future interactions with my D3. ROFL.

I also hear you about arguing with your S. Things change. I met my WW on Eharmony and we seldom disagreed about anything let alone fight. It wasn't that I was passive and gave her anything she wanted, we just were sooooooo compatible it was scary. I don't even have to be arguing with her now for her to think I'm taking a shot at her. That also alludes to her revisionist history because she knows I'm like Horton, the elephant. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I'm faithful 100%. As an aside, that has become one of my favorite books to D3.

Depression also can contribute to the fighting. People tend to take things more personally when they're depressed and they have a shorter fuse. Glad to hear you are working on that SparkSB.