Hi Scrant and Pinn, I feel your struggles of trying to understand trying to analyzing any interaction, I do it regularly and my W is still at home. She is due to move next week, but i still get many random texts, phone calls to find out when I'll be home from work etc. she wants to know where I go, who I see often. Questions I answer politely but without any information. I will be curious to see how things will be different when she has moved out, a I don't ask her anything at all about her day, etc.
There will always be some contact because of our kids but I have taken no interest in her life, for the most part, for several weeks. I want to take some strength that you show and give strength to you both and how you are handling things in the world I am about to enter. Thanks