One last question: The H has said in the past that the A is over because the OW is working on her M with her husband. I don't necessarily believe him. Also, he still insists that we are getting divorced. Do I stick with same boundaries if I find out that the A is actually over?
Broke and G8r, I too struggle with the whole boundaries and Vanilla's comment really helps to illustrate exactly how we should be moving forward and enforcing boundaries to set up a new form interaction and shift the dynamics for a "new" R or just new way of living.
In regards to your comment above, my H also says his A is over with OW and he's not seeing anyone, but I know thats not true. So to piggyback on your question, how does that change interactions with H? My gut tells me it doesn't change interactions that much b/c they're still out there doing whatever it is they're doing. In the same breath, I realized I needed to set boundaries myself along time ago but haven't really tried b/c for some reason I feel like setting boundaries will only push them further away. Also, how do you set boundaries with someone who doesn't care?
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
