Thank you Pajo, you said just what I needed to hear. I have done more for myself in the last few weeks than I have done in the past year. For the past year and a half we built a house in a foreign land where neither of us spoke the language very well. I had never felt as exhausted as during this process and I know this has contributed to our difficulties, the OM is single and has no responsibilities of a family or anything. I had been doing more as a family and spending less time on the house during the last 6 months but she never got him out of her head.
I think she is being encouraged by a number of her work friends that are single or have no children, she has cut out most of the friends we have that have families. There is nothing I can do about that as we all know, I can only be the best Dad I can be and a good man for somebody.
Like you said, I haven't given up hope on my family being reunited but I'm not going to sit around and wait for life. There are many things I can do, by myself or with my kids, I have met new people that I can do things with my kids and new ones that I can do things when I don't have them. My W has generally been someone that waits for life to come to her and then has usually blamed me for when it doesn't. We have made choices in our lives that have proved to be difficult, but only 4 months ago we both said we would do it all again. 1 month after that she was done....
Thanks again Pajo, as someone else mentioned you write so well and can help bring strength to others. I hope I can return the favour and encourage you also. It is a very difficult time, but I know that I have made good progress on me, with my kids and I most nights I can sleep well.
I agree whole heartedly that I also want to say to my kids that I did everything I could to keep/bring us back together. I said to them the other night how I could see how wonderful this family could be, my son agreed with me and said he wished it could be...
Take care Pajo and my thoughts are with you and your daughters.
