Did I respond in the right way to H? I was trying to validate but was I too friendly/nice? Should I have been "colder"?
To your point Broke, he did end up contacting first (only b/c he was forced to), so I'll use that time to discuss us filing jointly. I guess thats really all there is to discuss. My BIL brought up a good point last night, "You want to interact and talk with him but what is there to say?" I thought about it and everything I want to say is the opposite of the 180/DB/LRT/GAL school of thought. So, I guess I have nothing to say. I just want to interact more so he can see that I am not the woman he left and that's he's an idiot to leave me.
I'm so angry and disappointed. Therapy is rough and today I revealed that I just want to feel safe and secure in my relationships and things in life. I've never felt stable in anything and when I met H, I finally felt like this was for me, I am loved and feel stable with this man. And then I'm met again with abandonment and instability - things I've dealt with my entire life.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
