As I have told others, the unusual thing about my situation was that it wasn't the LBH who came here looking for help. I was the one who stumbled around and "accidentally" found my way to the DB board. So, my H did not get the tools that are given here. The work was on me. He really did not change and I basically had to accept him as he was. His health took a serious dive and our lives had to adjust again when he was forced into retirement, due to his health. There was a time that I don't know if I could have dealt with all that I am facing right now, but I think I am doing pretty good. The person who changed in my MR was "me".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
