The ILs are in an awkward spot too. It does not mean that they really accept the OW. They really don't have a choice since H is an adult and see that he is making his own choices.
I don't care about H. I care about YOU.
You might want to talk with the state DV coalition about safety planning. They are the experts in ensuring that you leave the situation without any potential harm to you and the children. Not only that, they should have a network of pro bono attorneys that can work on your case. Take advantage of this resource, honey.
There's life after leaving an abusive marriage. I have heard some really deeply personal stories from women firsthand on how they've thrived after divorcing their abusive husbands and have gone on to re-marry loving, supportive men. There's a bright, glorious light at the end of your dark tunnel. Keep looking to your North Star and it will never fail you.
