Thanks Thornton, that again is what I'm trying to do most of all. I have kept my pain away from them as much as possible and do what I can to make them laugh as much as possible.
I don't get the impression my W really knows what she wants right now, she is lazy and wants help with almost everything. She wants to go live on her own but couldn't/can't even look after the paperwork for the house for one month... I did a climbing wall course last week and met another family. Just got invited to meet them this weekend to climb. (An interest my W says she has but never does) I will probably take the kids for that.