I agree about not temp checking. Best to keep any interactions to 'just business' for now. I would say - yes great to leave in bike bag - thanks.

As for taking another job - Do you want to leave the area? Have a fresh start? I did that at BD and I don't have regrets. For me, H had decided to be a couple of hours away anyway, so we would have been geographically distant even had I not moved. I would agree that it could make a possible R harder.

I don't think there's any need to 'feel out' your W just now. It seems pretty clear where she is at and she remains involved with OP.

Make whatever feels like the best move for you I would say xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus