I am pretty sure possible EA has gone probable PA. While my 'evidence' I suppose, is rather circumstancial, it all adds up to be rather incriminating. H went on " biz" trip 3 hours north of here, within half hour of where the possible OW's live. I say OWs because I am not sure which one it is. Anyhow, I checked mileage before and after he left--- too many miles logged to have just gone to where he said he was going. Worse, he left here with a box of condoms and 5 Cialis. Came home with no condoms and 4 Cialis. Not really hard (no pun intended) evidence, but rather damning for sure.
I just do not even know how to address this. He can explain most of it away, and will certainly try, I am sure. I am choosing to wait til he comes back from another biz trip, where he will be gone 7 days. He leaves today. I had previoulsy discounted some of his current behavior, where he has emotionally withdrawn and some of the other progress we made seemed to be regressing, to this biz trip. He is very stressed.
Ironically, I mustered some money to call my IC on Tuesday to help me with some of my feelings and suspicions, and he felt that H was indeed stressed, and if there was an EA, that I coud address that without accusing. And to wait and see how H was after this upcoming trip that has him so stressed out. Like I have said, I thought/felt things were going pretty good, though he backed off some of lovey dovey stuff.
Any thoughts ideas on how to address an A when you're not 100% sure, and would have to admit to snooping.(I know!! I know!! I broke a rule) PA is not a deal breaker for me. I still want to save this M. Am I back to Square One?
Leaving with condoms and coming back with less condoms means you're sure. No point in working on a marriage if there are more than two people in it.
