Ok, I am looking for some advise from somebody who has been down this road and successfully R'd after another person was involved. I had a sleepless night processing all that has happened recently. I really do feel I want to give her another chance and try to make this work (not telling her that, I know I have to make her prove herself more yet). The big issue I'm having right now is getting the vision of her with OM out of my head. It feels like a smack in the face every time.

Do these feelings calm down? I know time heals, but my question is what is the best way to try to move past that? I really want to forgive. I know I wasn't perfect and that pushed her to some of the things that transpired. It's just something that really bothers me...


Me 34, XF 27
Many years together
Son 4
Engaged
Not engaged
Many false starts by XF
7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life
2/17 girlfriend moves in my home