Clarification: when I mentioned him thinking I called him stupid, that is really a recent problem. He never took it personally in the last or if he did, he told me and I apologized and explained that that was not my intent and I don't believe he is stupid at all.
I think our fighting changed when I started to really fall into my depression. I would get snippier and would just give up and walk away more, repress more. I guess he started doing the same. Knowing as much as I do about depression from my education, this is actually a pretty classic sign. And I'm getting treatment and can already feel some of the depressive fog lifting even despite everything that's going on. I get out of bed each day and do things because I want to, not because I have to.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward