There is absolutely no logic in affairs. I've heard that most people that have affairs usually do so with a partner that is "less than" their spouse. You would think it would be just the opposite.
I think W likes the way OM makes her feel about herself. I'm sure he charms her and that makes her blind to who he really is.
There is absolutely nothing you can do but to detach right now. Seriously, the odds of them ending up together in anything long term are nil.
I wish there was a short cut but there's not.
Realize that your W is an addict right now. And addicts act like.. well, addicts. Nothing she is doing makes sense and it won't anytime soon.
You probably won't sleep tonight but try and get some rest. Even if you just put on some jazz music and lay there.
Hang in there, pal. And stay off of her FB. The cats outta the bag and there's no sense in torturing yourself looking at that crap.
