She might be baiting you. She'll get you into a fight and then decide to seperate after you lose your cool. That way she can point the finger at you.
Sandi - what do you advise here?
Interesting thought. I hadn't considered that. Tonight she made an interesting comment. She said, "do you want to talk about stuff since we're in the house together for a change? I can't keep going on being so depressed and you just seem like you're in a perpetual state of happiness, which I guess might be your coping mechanism."
Originally Posted By: Pajo
Hey Someguy,
I'm new...just wanted to drop in and say thoughts are w/ you, man!
The ups, downs, and emotional contortions made by the WW, or WAW are mind boggling. SO sorry you're in the midst of this mess.
Thornton has a valid concern...any major departure like that is begging for you to react. One of the biggest lessons I've learned in the past couple of months (one I failed at today) is to step back (for me it can take a couple of hours) and let my emotions happen internally. Then...after the 'rush' is over...I can do a better job of looking at the situation with more clarity.
Also...when it's a biggie...like the curve ball you got...I try to do a run/jog, or something physical. Def clears the head for me.
Keep at it!
Thanks, Pajo. I've done pretty good for the most part, but it's tough when I'm thrown a curve ball. I need to keep working on not letting her get to me. I feel terrible about it since it affecting my attitude with the kids the rest of the night which isn't fair to them.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
