Now, on another matter, let me tell you something about W. She can't stand to be alone. Seriously can't stand it. Recall that before I told her to leave me alone, she said she was "seriously" considering telling ow to take a hike. She missed us, wanted us back together, etc. Is it AT ALL possible that she's the insecure exception to the rule? That she still needs to see me and admire me and want me before she can do this?????
All of this doesn't change your DB path. You really don't know what is going on inside W's mind.
Many times when the WAS leaves/breaks up with the OW/OM for good, it's because their rose glasses starts to crack and they begin to see them for who they really are--broken people. It is at that stage when they do see the stark contrast between the OW/OM and the LBS. The OM/OW becomes bitchy and demanding which cannot be fun at all for the WAS. When those behaviors start cropping up, it is when the WAS finally begins to think back to the good times with the LBS and how good they had it with the LBS.
It takes a long time for the drug high to wear off AND for the fogged mind to clear out. For those reasons, we harp at "gift of the time" and "dig deep for patience" for it is a long and hard process. Why not use the time away from the WAS to focus on YOU and making great improvements to make you more interesting and fun!
I get that, Wonka, I really do. But W was playing with fire when she was telling me she wanted back with me and that she was "seriously considering" dumping ow. If we had that dinner and continued flirting AND OW GOT WIND OF THAT, wouldn't that make her become demanding and even bitchy? I mean she's the one throwing away all her straight privilege for this thing. She got impatient in December and told W she didn't deserve either one of us... Which only made W want her all the more I guess.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
