Well done, NYG. Trust this process...the DB process.
Let me circle back to your earlier post here:
Now, on another matter, let me tell you something about W. She can't stand to be alone. Seriously can't stand it. Recall that before I told her to leave me alone, she said she was "seriously" considering telling ow to take a hike. She missed us, wanted us back together, etc. Is it AT ALL possible that she's the insecure exception to the rule? That she still needs to see me and admire me and want me before she can do this?????
All of this doesn't change your DB path. You really don't know what is going on inside W's mind.
Many times when the WAS leaves/breaks up with the OW/OM for good, it's because their rose glasses starts to crack and they begin to see them for who they really are--broken people. It is at that stage when they do see the stark contrast between the OW/OM and the LBS. The OM/OW becomes bitchy and demanding which cannot be fun at all for the WAS. When those behaviors start cropping up, it is when the WAS finally begins to think back to the good times with the LBS and how good they had it with the LBS.
It takes a long time for the drug high to wear off AND for the fogged mind to clear out. For those reasons, we harp at "gift of the time" and "dig deep for patience" for it is a long and hard process. Why not use the time away from the WAS to focus on YOU and making great improvements to make you more interesting and fun!
I am signing up for watercolor class starting in mid-March. Fun, right?! What are you doing for fun, NYG?
