Wonka, sending out the batcall for Wonka. Is there anything I can do to open the door just a little to W when I return the email telling her I changed the account? Even just saying, I hope you're well? Remember, the last thing I said to her was a very inelegant weepy leave me alone if ow is still in your life, I can't take it anymore. Then I broke down and lost it and she found out. Is there any way I can mend any of what I lost that day? I liked hearing her and seeing her more than i like this NC thing... and even if the promises were hollow, it gave me an opportunity to charm her and flirt a little. Just wondering...
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I do get where you are...I really do. I used to hate Ms. Wonka sending me short, impersonal emails/texts...not even putting my name on it for months and months. It was always straight to the subject without "Hi Wonka" or "Wonka."
As long as W is involved with W, don't bother trying to be charming or flirting. That happens when the OW/OM is out of the picture.
What works is being light and breezy when responding to emails/texts. And KISS!
Why don't you try and draft a response here? I think you're more than ready to give this a go.
W, Thanks for letting me know about this. I took care of it. I hope you are well. (But I want to say something more!!!!) NYGal
From: W Sent: Wednesday, February 24, 2016 2:03 PM To: NYGal Subject: Account Y
NYGal,
Will you please call X regarding Account number Y. Please let them know that you authorize changing over responsibility for the account to W. The account is set up in your name and phone number. They will not change it to my name and phone number without your authorization. Once you have done that, I can then call back and change it over to my name and phone number.
Thanks!
W
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
In reading the email, I have to say that the email was respectful and included both of your names. Next time, just don't include From, Sent, To...best not to do so here. To protect everyone.
One question....is this account W's only as the primary? Or was that a joint account? Was any of your money in this account at all (or still is)?
To me, that gives away all of your leverage as far as the annuity goes.
Wonka, Or I could send her a newsy email about some health issues regarding two of our friends, an exercise class I think she'd like, a documentary on HBO she'd like, and that someone we know is dating someone who used to own our house... just newsy fun stuff.
Or not.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Wonka, It was just the internet service, that's all. All the utilities were in my name, and I guess we forgot to change this over to her.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Wonka, Or I could send her a newsy email about some health issues regarding two of our friends, an exercise class I think she'd like, a documentary on HBO she'd like, and that someone we know is dating someone who used to own our house... just newsy fun stuff.
Or not.
NOPE. Nothing of that sort. You can handle this....yes you can! I heard nothing from Ms. Wonka for 4 solid months. Four dark months of complete radio silence. I survived it. So can you.
Back to your draft response:
W, Thanks for letting me know about this. I took care of it. I hope you are well. NYGal
OK, Wonka, I will send it just as you say. Done. Now, on another matter, let me tell you something about W. She can't stand to be alone. Seriously can't stand it. Recall that before I told her to leave me alone, she said she was "seriously" considering telling ow to take a hike. She missed us, wanted us back together, etc. Is it AT ALL possible that she's the insecure exception to the rule? That she still needs to see me and admire me and want me before she can do this????? p.s. she just responded: Great! Thank you. Do I need to call them to get my name and phone number on there? Or did they let you add my name? (She used to ask questions like this when she wanted to be in touch with me... she could always just call and figure it our herself, but she likes to ask me... is this a good sign? Or is it nothing?)
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I already did. Very brief and to the point. She came back with another question. And I answered. All about the internet bill. That's all.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
