Fo, yes. If my husband told me a definitive " I want a divorce" or if there was OW or if he told me he does not want to work on reconciliation I would be able to move forward.
He does not know what he wants it appears. Or perhaps he is stringing me along because he wants divorce but he is too busy with work to handle it. The more I think about it, the more that is making sense to me.
He won't tell me and his communication is indirect. Yes I am sure he is confused but what he is doing is so unfair to me. I am a person too and I would not and have never done this to someone. I know you and I are in similar positions regarding what we want to do and how we feel about husband.
If I was reading these posts I would want to bow down to the person that said " he don't know what he wants? After 14 years and kids? F him. I'm moving on and not looking back" and you know what's funny? That's the person that has the spouse chasing them.
Why can't I do that? His actions are not right. I know that intellectually. I think I need therapy to move on.
What I am not sure of is if my actions as a wife were so bad, that perhaps I do deserve this. That is what I beleive, is keeping me here. I think of the things I did wrong. Even though they were so long ago.
