Juju, the advice you have received is right on target and I should be taking it myself. I have come to the conclusion that I am incapable of really and truly detaching. I can get it for a few days, even once for an amazing few weeks. But it comes back. I think if H really "left" as in filed I could detach. Not what I want. Wish I had an answer for you, but take comfort that you are not the only one.
