I understand that I may never know, I just meant that it's hard to see anything at the moment.. I get that she is a mess and all, I have just 4 more days before she is due to move out. My W is and always has been a big talker but rarely walks the walk.. Now I'm not expecting her to not move out and as much as I will miss my kids half the time, she does need to go. She seems to have friends at work that are supporting her, many that do not know me. It's just hard being portrayed as the things she is saying...