I don't think Thornton actually said anything about wording :p (I just keep replying to my own thread) so I'm guessing you mean the second wording? I think I may wait a little while to send it just because packing isn't that time sensitive (I've got 3 months) So if I start bringing it up now, it may be interpreted as me using it as an excuse to talk to him. So I think I'm going to sit in the NC quiet for a bit longer.
And I never thought it sounded controlling either. I told the friend paying for the plane ticket this too and his response was "weird how being nice can come across as being controlling."
Side note: going to yoga tonight for the first time in like 2 years. I'mma be so sore tomorrow!
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward