I agree with NYGal. Do not bring up what you are learning here and don't bring up your suspicions of another man being in the picture. Doing so will do two things. 1) She will deny everything, and 2) She will take the affair deeper underground.....if she's having one.
Look, this MC is not going to get you anywhere but confused right now. Don't mix DB with MC, b/c it doesn't usually go hand in hand. Besides, your W doesn't want to do the right thing, yet. And until she is ready to do the right thing, you are wasting your money and time on a MC.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
