Ojap's Story

[TimR]

That is a great question. But ask yourself would it change your sitch one way or the other. Or... would it just keep you speculating what is the cause? Maybe tomorrow you will know the real reason or maybe you will never know. You gotta work on you because that is all you have control over. Much MUCH easier said than done... I cannot tell you how I constantly speculate what W is doing this exact moment. It is over with OM? If so why hasn't she come back? Has it started back up with OM? Is there a different OM? I drop S off and she is not home? Where is she? Who is she texting? Why hasn't she texted me back? Why is she angry when she just seemed to be in a good mood? How did we get here? What did she mean by that? Why did she choose to word it that way? etc.

Here is where that gets me. Nightmares, anxiety, depression, headaches, not working how I should, anger, tears, etc. I understand when I tell you to work on yourself and detach from her, it is much easier said than done. But it is what you need to do. Otherwise we become the greatest reason for our W to walk away!