Will say that I saw 3 or 4 really positive reactions to my DBing over the course of two weeks....then she called me after a joint meeting we had regarding D9 at school. I could tell she wanted to talk....she basically said:
"You're doing so great. Thank you for your effort. {gets teary} but I still feel like I'm walking around on eggshells. 'Trapped' isn't a good word...but I feel like I have completely 'cut you off'. I still want separation. I feel like I am trying, but trying for the wrong reasons...for the kids, because I am supposed to....not because it is how I feel and what I want. It's like I'm living a lie"
So...I was dying inside...but I validated. Asked her if there were any 'action steps' associated with how she was feeling. That's when she said she still wants to separate, but "I don't know if/how to really do that. To separate from what?"
I will watch our trend and see how it develops. Thx again for the input
Ojap M 13 T 15 D 11 D 11 D 9 BD #1: ILYBNILWY 09/2015 BD #2: W asks for S 12/2015 ---------- Currently: Limbo
