Hmmm...so MC has not 'worked'. Matter of fact...I stated about a month ago that we were both further along the road to separation than when we started.
The only thing that has generated positive results is my DBing (about a month now). I no longer have a bad attitude about situation by moping or being depressed in front of her. I do not bring up R talk, ever. I do not question where she is, or who she goes with. I do not say anything about her phone, etc. I have stopped snooping.
In last two weeks she has been the text initiator, quasi offered for us to walk/run together vs. separate on one occasion. No talking...but did it together. Asked my opinion/thoughts about her going to a Super Bowl party (work related) .
Sandi: I agree w/ your comment about spouses having access to phones, etc. Is it a widely held belief that this transparency is a 'norm'? My wife has always had 'privacy' issues. Early in our marriage it was an issue b/c I would talk about our finances, her work or school stuff, to my family (and sometimes my best friend) and it would infuriate her. Her family was extremely private about that kind of stuff and she says it makes her feel that I am messing with her security.
Ojap M 13 T 15 D 11 D 11 D 9 BD #1: ILYBNILWY 09/2015 BD #2: W asks for S 12/2015 ---------- Currently: Limbo
