We all want companionship and intimacy, but loving or needing someone else shouldn't be about "filling us up" but about adding to your already great life. I would recommend taking a look at Thornton's thread right now. His WAS moved all of her things out and he is feeling very low. He is getting a lot of great advice about finding out what he likes about himself and who he wants to be before he can be in any type of relationship.
I want to encourage you to find some things to GAL and write down some goals and 180's. I know that our situations totally stink write now and it is incredibly difficult to move forward when you just want some resolution about your M. But, our WAHs are a mess and very confused. I have realized that I have absolutely no hope if I push him and make him talk. I also have no hope if I don't change who I am and show him that the person that he drifted away from isn't really the person that I am or want to be. Who do you want to be? Who is the real JujuB?
Changing who I am and becoming a more improved version of "me" may not get me my M back. But, it will get ME back. I don't really like the version my H left either. And, I want to be prepared for my next relationship - I am hoping for a second chance with my H. But, if it isn't to be, then I don't want to make the same mistakes again.
Start thinking about who you want to be....I am sure you are an interesting and unique person without your spouse.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
