So...are all these EA/PA red flags also red flags for clinical depression and the loneliness she is struggling with?
I am no authority on it. From what I have read, I would say the W does not have to be depressed or feeling lonely.
IMO, she has given you just cause to feel you can't fully trust her. I also noticed how she twist and reverses it to be about her not being able to trust you. That is very, very common for a wayward wife. She will make you feel, or make it appear that you have violated her privacy and that now she can no longer trust you with anything. She plays down the fact she has inappropriate and unexplained text messages with other men....and she blows up how you are untrustworthy. She can make you feel very guilty and you find yourself trying to prove that you can be trusted. Pretty much out of kelter, don't you think? Any spouse should be able to pick up the phone of the other spouse and look at it at any time, without being rebuked for breaking their privacy.
Whenever a wayward wife is confronted about any type of an affair.....the first thing she will do is deny it. Then, she will begin turning and twisting facts and/or giving some reason to allow excuses for her inappropriate behavior. Somehow, the LBS feels guilty for ever questioning the wayward.
Stay balanced and remember who is the one pushing the boundaries and the one who isn't.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
