Sandi2's 37 Rules

[CWOL]

Hi Sandi,
I don't understand your Rule #10. Why is snooping bad, especially when I'm at the beginning of divorce proceedings filed by my wife? She was gaslighting me, pretending to go along with reconciliation but I felt something was wrong. I spied and it gave me several weeks to:
1. Uncover her secret plans to file, thus I was able prepare and structure finances before she could move any money
2. Interview prospective attorneys and pick one without pressure of having to respond to a filing
3. Learn of her legal strategy and what she planned to go after
4. Throw a wrench into her plans and thus delayed things by several weeks

Of course, there was a high emotional cost to it. It really made me see my WW in a negative light. Her hurtful comments to others about me really hurt, but hardened my heart and enabled me to prepare rationally. I learned she was still contacting OM despite telling everyone she cut him off. Mentally it was extremely stressful. But legally and financially I believe it helped me a lot.

Let me know your thoughts, thanks.