Need help. Threading water, must learn to swim.

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Thank you for the support and encouragement Thorton, Tyler12 and CWOL.

I plan to continue standing for my M Thorton but I'm not sure how much longer. I've always kind of felt that once we are ddivorced that would be it. Although we still live in the same house, I have cut waaaaàay back on interacting with WW. I try to be cordial and not be cold and indifferent to her but I think she perceives my communications with her as cold and distance. Any suggestions for remaining cordial?

Thank you so much for your kind words Tyler12. I really needed them yesterday evening so thank you. I really appreciated and value them. I'm doing my best to be a lighthouse and beacon for D3. She already feels the frostiness of the D (not from either of us towards her) because I WW has so much anger and resentment towards me and she has trouble hiding it. She projects that anger to me and then blames my anger for D3's problems. Grrrrrrrr....

I'm so sorry to hear your WW is trying to make you the bad guy, CWOL. That stinks and is so unfair. My WW often gets mad at me and complains that I am trying to make her the bad guy by refusing to say that the D is partially my idea. I refuse to take ownership of that because I still don't want it. I told my WW early on that the only way I would be ok with a D was if we made an honest attempt to R and it still didn't work out. That never happened so the D is completely on her. That's not to say I'm shirking responsibility for problems in our M. I'm not. We both ccontributed to our problems. It's just that she has chosen to blow everything up because working is too hard. It's easier to run from problems than confront t problems.