Pajo, read and reread the threads on pursuer and distance relationships. Also look at the book ... That may help you. The more you read the more you will understand. As GI Joe would say, Knowing is half the battle. Make sure to read, read, read... then act accordingly although counter intuitively.
You dont need to read the book - the thread has everything you need in it.
After I just spent the entire weekend at a swim meet, I know that can really be exhausting.
