Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
That transpired a few months after her moving out...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Just stopping in with an update on what has been transpiring in my life. XF and myself have been much more friendly this week. The random texts and occasional phone call not having to do with S4. Still not sure exactly how I feel so I will just roll with whatever feels right.
I was contacted by the OM who stuck himself in the middle for a short time. He recieved a no contact email from her (she did that on her own, I mentioned that he would have to be gone forever and that is how she responded to it). He claims he wanted me to know that he is no longer a threat and wanted to try to explain himself and why he did what he did, I replied that if he really was half the man he claimed to be he wouldn't have done what he did. Explained that the best apology I can receive is change of actions. I wouldn't say I was rude, but I defiantly voiced my displeasure.
Anyways, that's my life right now. Seems to be an effort on her part? See where it leads...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
One question I do have for anybody here. At this point and time, her birthday is coming up. Do I still ignore it as DB suggests? Or do I maybe acknowledge it with a text or card? Just no real sure with the way things are what would be best.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I've got to admit, I have mixed feeling about her sending that to him. It feels good that she seems to be making an effort towards what I set as something I needed. On the other hand, I feel like I should have been involved in it so I know exactly what was said and how it went down. The way it happened, how do I know it wasn't discussed between them and he calls me as a front?
I want to see it as positive but I find myself second guessing the genuineness of it because I didn't see it happen.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I don't know, I just find it weird... The fact that he called and then tried to play it off as if it was nothing. Went into explaining that he thinks she's still in love with me and that was thier downfall. It was just weird all the way around.
I listened for a while and then a few cuss words went his way. I just couldn't believe what I was hearing... Why would he even call?
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Careful not to jump to any conclusions yet. She may have sent him that letter and it have nothing to do with you. Maybe she just realized he wasn't the one of several othet motivations/reasons. While it could be a positive sign shes reconsidering it doesn't guarantee it.
I really hope it is her rethinking, just be prepared for anything.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
