It's so clear to me when I read other people's posts...
Your spouse is behaving like a .... Why do you even want them back? It won't work unless they truly are remorseful and desperately want back. Even then there is a good chance it won't work because for them to do what they did, there is something seriously wrong,
They will never want back until you have moved on. In their hearts, they know when you truly have moved on. Your wasting time by not moving on and delaying things.
My only problem is I truly don't know how to move on unless there is other person in my picture. I like the comradeship and the bonding and intimacy. What does that say about me? That I am needy and unhappy with just myself? I am surviving by myself for long time now.
Instead of "moving on" figure out how to "move forward" How do you become a person only a fool would leave?
