I Think it's Way Too Late

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Hi Painter,
I've thought about the timing thing with my Mother. Like I said, she doesn't do well over the phone - but much better in person. If I can't find any of the originals the L is looking for, then I'll need to get her neurologist involved.

My biggest problem is we can't get a proper diagnosis on Mom as they can't do an MRI on her because of her pacemaker. So, they're going on all the other information they can get and that's what her meds are based on. Right now it's "dementia" which doesn't say much at all. But based on her behavior and the rapid onset I think we have a good idea.

Unfortunately, her home is being leased to pay for where we live right now - we just renewed it in Sept. Breaking a lease in CA is an expensive and lengthy proposition at best. Plus - her attachment to the home is mostly sentimental. She only knew one person there - and that person is literally schizophrenic and had been gone for several months in lockdown when we moved Mom. Her original home town is much closer to where we are now, but everyone she knew has passed on. We're pretty much alone here. I think she feels like home really is wherever I am though. And, the MIL has been a very good friend to her, I don't see that changing. But what do I know?

I've been here for a little over 10 years so I've done a lot of this to myself. I never imagined not being with the W, so everyone was a mutual friend. I suppose as time passes I really will find out who my friends are as this all plays out.

The finalization of the D will tell us where we'll go. If the W winds up getting half the properties from the trust (the L's say no - but I know there's other factors in play) then I'll push for liquidation in spite of the tax hit. I could change my mind, but I don't see wanting anything that's going to form a "partnership" with the W moving forward.